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When Grief Comes to the Classroom through Death
When Grief Comes to the Classroom through Death

  When a student dies or has someone they love in their life die, it will be tough situation for everyone involved.  Below are links that will help you as an educator help your students work through their grief in this difficult time.

The Grieving Child

     Children and teens grieve the death of a loved one differently than adults.  Under this link you will find general information on the stages of grieving, the grieving child, and how you can help a grieving child.

When a Student has had a Loved One Die

     When a student has had a loved one die, their lives will never be the same. They will have so much going on and will be just starting to establish new routines and learn a new way of living.  As a teacher or staff member at a school, you can have a positive influence on your student during this difficult time. Under this link you will find advise, suggestions and information on what to do when a student experiences the death of a loved one.

When a Student Dies

     After the death of a student, a school will be in turmoil.  It is a sad difficult time for staff and students alike.  Under this link you will find advice, suggestions and information on what to do when a student dies.

http://books.google.com/books?hl=en&lr=&id=8VrR2F8EuXQC&oi=fnd&pg=PP7&dq=grieving+students+in+the+primary+grade+level&ots=g6wEVmsxeW&sig=Tx3Itl791ubGfIi8FdQfXVQkcJk

    Death and the Classroom is a teacher and faculty guide when coming face-to-face with a death situation within the school setting.  This book can be viewed as the school textbook for how to deal with the students' question and fears on death.  Included in the book is information on normal ways that children will express their grief and deal with death and suggestions for how to perform a memorial service within the school setting. The book offers many "how to" tips for the first two days and many other additional suggestions for continuing the school year.
  


http://www.theapple.com/benefits/articles/1927-how-to-help-your-students-deal-with-grief-and-loss

    Each year your school and students face the chance of dealing with a loss. How each student grieves depends on their concept of death and ability to express their emotions. This website offers different ways that your students may react to the grieving process, the developmental differences of understanding death, eight tips on how to help grieving students, and how students can help encourage their friends during trying times.



http://www.yale.edu/ynhti/curriculum/units/1989/2/89.02.02.x.html

    When your classroom experiences death of a classmate or a fellow friend within the school, you will need to be able to offer additional guidance to help them through this process.  This website offers four different types of lesson plans to help your students understand death.  One lesson plans deals strictly with vocabulary while the other three deal with different types of grieving such as depression, death, and suicide

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  • Children will need to be shown love and support from their teachers and parents when coping with a loss, death, or grief. This website explains the different types of expression for grief, tips on how to help children cope with death, the different phases of understanding death, tips for how children and teens can help grieving friends and classmates, and additional resources.

Resources on Grievance

Books



Coloroso, Barbara.  Parenting through crisis: Helping kids in times of loss, grief, and change.  Toronto: Penguin, 2000.



Fitzgerald, Helen.  The Grieving child: A Parent's guide.  Toronto: Simon & Schuster, c2003.



Helping children cope with death.  Portland, OR: The Dougy Center for Grieving Children, c1997.



Helping teens cope with death.  Portland, OR: The Dougy Center for Grieving Children, c2004.



Helping the grieving student: A Guide for teachers: A Practical guide for dealing with death in your classroom.  Portland, OR: The Dougy Center for Grieving Children, c1997.



Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth.  Living with death and dying: How to communicate with the terminally ill.  New York: Touchstone, 1997, c1981.



When death impacts your school: A Guide for school administrators.  Portland, OR: Dougy Center for Grieving Children, c2000.



Kübler-Ross, Elizabeth.  On children and death: How children and their parents can and do cope with death.  New York: Touchstone, 1997, c1983.



35 ways to help a grieving child.  Portland, OR: Dougy Center, c2004.



Hamilton, Joan.  When a parent is sick: Helping parents explain serious illness to children.  Lawrencetown Beach, NS: Pottersfield Press, c2001. 



After a suicide: A Workbook for grieving kids.  [Portland, OR]: The Dougy Center, [c2001].



After a murder: A Workbook for grieving kids.  [Portland, OR]: The Dougy Center, [c2002].



Landy, Lois.  Child support: Through small group counseling.  Indianapolis, IN: Kidsrights, 2002, c1990.



Goldman, Linda.  Helping the grieving child in school.  Bloomington, IN: Phi Delta Kappa Educational Foundation, 2000. – (Fastback; 460).



Stewart, Jan.  The Tough stuff series.  Torrance, CA: Jalmar Press, c2000.



Empfield, Maureen.  Understanding teenage depression: A Guide to diagnosis, treatment, and management.  New York: H. Holt, c2001.

Audio Visual Materials


The Bereaved child.  London, ON: Kings College Center for Education about Death and Dying, 1996. 1 cassette (ca. 30 min.)
         
Summary:  Children must be taught that death is a natural part of the life cycle. Second of a four part series that draws on the research and knowledge of the world's leading authorities. Second program looks at the bereaved child as the forgotten griever.




Children speak.  Montreal: National Film Board of Canada, 1996. 1 videocassette (9 min.)
          Summary:  Short animated film captures conversations among children aged 5-7 on their beliefs about birth, life, and death. 




Death education.  London, ON: King’s College Center for Education about Death and Dying, 1996.  1 videocassette (ca. 30 min.)
          Summary: Children must be taught that death is a natural part of the life cycle. Third of a four part series that draws on the research and knowledge of the world's leading authorities on the subject. Third program looks at death education with the emphasis on suicide.  




The Dying child.  London, ON: King’s College Center for Education about Death and Dying, 1996. 1 videocassette (ca. 30 min.)
          Summary:  Children must be taught that death is a natural part of the life cycle. First of a four part series that draws on the research and knowledge of the world's leading authorities on the subject. First program deals with a child facing the prospect of his or her own death. 




Fall of Freddie the Leaf.  Van Nuys, CA: Aims Media, 199-?. 1 cassette (17 min.)
          Summary: The cycle of life as witnessed by a leaf on a large tree in a park. Freddie learns that dying is a part of living. 




Kids care.  [Toronto]: Sky Works Charitable Foundation, c2005. 1 videodisc (77 min.)
          Summary: This documentary addresses the needs and issues of young people who have lost a loved one to cancer. Features a group of young people who talk candidly about their experiences of loss and describe what friends, family and teachers can do to help bereaved young people cope with feelings of fear, anger, isolation and sadness.




Missing Rocky : A Program on dealing with grief.  Mississauga, ON: McIntyre Media, 1996.
          Summary: Story of a boy who confronts the untimely death of his dog. Viewers will learn about the shock of losing a loved one and the confusing feelings, such as anger, guilt, sadness, and loneliness, which follow such a loss. Viewers will learn the importance of ritual in commemorating loss and how discussing mixed feelings with those they trust will help them heal. 




The Old American family ain’t what it used to be.  Duluth, MN: Whole Person Associates, 1995. 1 cassette (60 min.)
          SUMMARY:  Provides advice on how to cope with the many faces and timetables of grief. Explore how the loss of a parent through death, desertion, or divorce affects family members and what to expect from your kids. 




Quest for meaning.  London, ON: King’s College Centre for Education about Death and Dying, 1996. 1 videocassette (ca. 30 min.)
          Summary: Children must be taught that death is a natural part of the life cycle. Fourth of a four part series that draws on the research and knowledge of the world's leading authorities on the subject. Fourth program looks at the spiritual and ethical aspects of childhood death and bereavement. 




Sometimes you have to say good-bye.  New York: Sunburst Visual Media, c2003. 1 videocassette (12 min.) + teacher's guide (43 p.)
          Summary: Short, realistic vignettes present various situations in which a child experiences a loss. By getting involved with these situations, children realize that everyone experiences losses in their lives, and that eventually the sadness and grief will fade and happiness will return.
 



Teen grief : A Guide for adults.  Northbrook, IL: Hospice of Metro Denver, 1994. 1 cassette (23 min.) + 1 video discussion guide.
          Summary: A companion to: Teen grief : Climbing back. Focuses on information that will help adults offer effective support to grieving teens. Marcia Lattanzi-Licht, a pioneer in the hospice field and well-known speaker on grief related topics explains how and why teens grieve differently from adults, and offers suggestions and helpful hints on how to be supportive. 




When someone dies : Bereavement and loss.  Mount Kisco, NY: Human Relations Media, c2003. 1 videodisc (30 min.) + 1 teacher's resource guide.
          Summary: Program presents young people with valuable information about the bereavement process, including the fact that grieving is a natural reaction to death. While coping with a loss is never easy, this material provides information that may help make the grieving process less painful and confusing.




Journal Articles



Ceballo, R. et al. "Bilingual neighborhood clubs: Supporting children exposed to urban violence." Brown University Child & Adolescent Behavior Letter 22.10 (2006): p4-5.




Farrington, Jan.  “Gone.”  Current Health 2 33.1 (2006): 26-29.



Haine, Rachel A. et al.  “Positive parenting as a protective resource for parentally bereaved children.”  Death Studies 31.1 (2006): 1-28.



Hope, Rebecca M. and Hodge, Diane M.  “Factors affecting children’s adjustment to the death of a parent : The Social work professional’s viewpoint.”  Child & Adolescent Social Work Journal 23.1 (2006): 107-126.



Kaplow, Julie B. et al.  “The Long-term consequences of early childhood trauma : A Case study and discussion.”  Psychiatry: Interpersonal & Biological Processes 69.4 (2006): 362-375.



Lawhon, Tommie.  “Teachers and schools can aid grieving students.”  Education 124.3 (2004): 559-566.



Silva, Peggy.  "An Authentic test for our children : Ten common principles in a time of grief.”  Phi Delta Kappan 85.9 (2004): 707-708.




Websites

American Academy of Child Adolescent Psychiatry : Children and grief.  2004. AACAP.  24 May 2007 http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/children_and_grief



Children and loss : Teachers serve as a crucial emotional bridge for a child at times of loss. What do we need to know to help students cope? Bruce D. Perry. 2007. Scholastic Inc. 24 May 2007 http://teacher.scholastic.com/professional/bruceperry/childrenloss.htm

Fernside : Supporting children and families through grief. 24 May 2007 http://www.fernside.org/resources/




The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families. 2004. The Dougy Center. 24 May 2007 http://www.dougy.org/



Center for peer support groups:


http://www.dougy.org/default.asp?pid=7736932



The Dougy Center was the first to provide peer support for grieving children in the United States.  On this website you are able to read 25 years of stories gathered from the center, events the center hosts, contact information, frequently asked questions, training possibilities, volunteer opportunities, and Spanish programs.  The website also breaks down grieving support for young adults, adults, kids, teens, and for the holidays. Also, the website offers possible procedure plans for schools dealing with grieving students in the classroom and steps for the administration to follow.



Possible Procedure Plans for School Districts:


http://www.decs.sa.gov.au/wallaradistrict/files/links/Internal_Grief_Package_SIT.pdf



This website offers a possible management plan for your school district when dealing with dangerous situations.  This procedure plan comes from Wallara District located in South Australia.  



 http://doe.sd.gov/oatq/accreditation/docs/lead_dead_crisisplan.pdf



This website offers a possible management plan for your school district when dealing with dangerous situations.  This procedure plan comes from Lead-Deadwood School District.



http://education.state.mn.us/mdeprod/groups/Compliance/documents/Manual/008374.pdf



This website offers a possible management plan for your school district when dealing with dangerous situations.  This procedure plan comes from the Minnesota Department of Public Safety.



http://www.masonohioschools.com/docs/1-Certified%20Handbook%202007.pdf



This website offers a possible management plan for your school district when dealing with dangerous situations.  This procedure plan comes from the Mason City School District.